The Dating Philosophy

I hate to break it to you, but there’s never just one right answer to any question you might ask about what to do in dating. It almost always depends on the circumstances. The smallest look, comment, or touch from a person can send drastically different signals about what the next move is depending on the situation (as you will learn, body language is a huge part of communication). Unfortunately there is just no mathematical science to dating. Instead it’s more of a philosophy. This philosophy transcends your dating life and will apply to your entire outlook on who you are and how you interact with others. If you could build up your self-esteem and confidence, how do you think your entire life would change? Once you see the change for yourself, you’ll realize how far-reaching this philosophy really is.

I became a dating coach to help both men and women learn how to meet more people, and to teach them what to do once they’ve met them. You’ll see that the most critical steps to improving your dating life are increasing your self-esteem and finding confidence. These are the keys to overcoming social anxiety, which is typically the biggest barrier to approaching and talking to new people, and feeling completely comfortable with yourself when you do.

For those of you that have the courage to change, just remember that in anything you do the first step is always the hardest. When you decide that you want to start working out, I guarantee you that the first day in the gym will be the roughest. If it’s not, then I assure you that you will at least be extremely sore the next day. If you’re not, then a personal trainer would argue that you’re not working out hard enough. The same logic follows when working to improve your social life. As you begin to get over your dating phobias, you are going to need to push your mind as hard as you would push your body in the gym. Not only will you have to work hard, you’ll also need to make sure that you are “working out” (dating) the right way to get the results you want.

As a dating coach, I teach a philosophy – I won’t feed you hackneyed advice that will only work under ideal circumstances. For example, I will never tell you that you must call a person the day after you meet them; I will never tell you to always say certain phrases or to move your body in certain ways. Beware of this type of advice from anyone, especially from so-called dating professionals, because this indicates that they have only experienced a few different types of scenarios and have passed judgments on what to do base on their limited experiences. I believe in flexible advice because, once again, your approach to each social situation completely depends on your audience. Pretty soon you’ll be so comfortable with yourself that your addiction to socializing will grow as people will be magnetically attracted to you and your personality!